I feel like I open up most conversations like this: It'd be a lie if I said I didn't love Bravo. Poignant, I know. But it's the dirty truth. I have an addiction to reality TV that I refuse to give up. Even worse: I do everything in my power to drag my closest confidants into my spiral of trash talking, over produced romantic scenes, and ill-meaning frenemies.
On a recent season of Below Deck, a show based around the crew working on an extravagant yacht, Emily Warburton-Adams graced millions of screens. I instantly liked her in a genuine way contrasting to how normally I just see the characters as pure entertainment. Emily wasn't like most of the people on this show, or any others for that matter. She didn't seem desperate for reality stardom, or attention in general and lead with her brain versus her looks.
As the show came to a close, and Emily went back to the real world, she dove into endeavors to help shift the mental health community into a more open one. Through her web series, Pillow Chats,which coincides with workshops to help improve your mental health, Emily plans to spread knowledge and energy for all. We caught up with the London bred babe to find out more information about what she is currently up to, and her plans with her platform.
Dear Diary: Where did you grow up?
Emily: In London, England.
Where are you living now?
I’m currently living back in London after a few years of living abroad.
What lead you there?
I felt like I wanted to be back with my family after having done the reality show.
What do you do for a living?
I am still aspiring to reach my career goals! At the moment I’m taking the steps to get there working as a social influencer and doing hosting / speaking work and mental health campaigning.
Do you have any personal mental health issues?
I don’t suffer anymore however I have suffered badly from mental illness in the past and the process of recovery, learning to manage conditions, having therapy and changing your life makes you a much stronger person and I for one have a new sense of wanting to live life to the fullest having got to a good place.
What prompted you to become an advocate in this community?
On my last admission into a psychiatric hospital I promised myself I would take the steps and embrace the challenge of recovering with the motive of wanting to help others. There are stages to recovery and I felt strong enough to become an advocate and be open at the start of the year.
What are actions you take to advocate for Mental Health?
I do a few things and have lots more planned for 2018 :). I run campaigns and have been speaking and mentoring at clinics and schools. I also set up a brand called Pillow Chats that acts as a supportive platform where we share stories, discuss topics that need awareness and help break the stigma around things that aren’t talked about enough, such as mental health. My partner and I run Pillow Chat workshops too.
What have been some of your best experiences in speaking out about these issues?
Having started to speak out the most prominent thing is the rewarding nature of the feedback and responses I get regarding how much it has helped individuals. I never quite get used to the fact that I can help and inspire people, and the messages and feedback that I get keeps me going with this.
Can you describe Pillow Chats?
Georgie Spurling and I founded "Pillow Chats" as a YouTube channel and social platform aimed at busy corporate millennials a few months ago. Set to provide a supportive community and resource for those who experience the daily stresses and mental health issues that come with real life, we chat about real life issues, mental health topics and fun stories to create awareness and help break the stigma - in the comfort of our bed.
This December we are hosting the first interactive, self - care / mental health workshop in time for Christmas.
When did you start this platform?
A few months ago
What do you hope to achieve?
We hope to help make it acceptable to have suffered and speak about mental illness and other stigmas, as well as influencing people in self care, motivation and happiness. We want to help raise awareness and break the stigma while essentially creating a supportive community who engage to do the same.
Who are some people that have lead the path before you that you look up to?
I am constantly being influenced by new people and I look up to a few female entrepreneurs who I work closely with. I like to be newly inspired and follow people succeeding doing things slightly differently.
What keeps you motivated in your mission?
My motivations come from many places, including my vision, the feedback and support that I receive with what I am pursuing.
What is some advice you’d give to a person who is newly trying to improve their mental health?
The biggest piece of advice that I would give is to reach out and ask for help, don’t get out of your depth and wait until it will be a lot harder to manage what you are dealing with because recovery is a hard climb. Importantly, do not be ashamed or scared about talking about it, know that you are not alone, trust your instincts and feelings about not being okay and try and look for positive influences in your immediate, real life and virtual.
Please share any personal thoughts, mottos, epiphanies, philosophies, questions or goals of YOURS that align with the information we are trying to gather, as outlined in our mission:To normalize previously silenced topics and obstacles we face as women.
“She was unstoppable, not because she did not have failures or doubts but because she continued on despite them” Beau Taplin
Our initiative, Project: Fill in the Blank was created to form a safe space for women to connect through our common obstacles be it mental health issues, or just personal life struggles. Can you share with us one word that describes a personal struggle you have dealt with:
One of the 5 personality traits, it is often associated with perfectionism, being systematic, high achieving, very controlled in behaviours and always wanting to please. All traits that can be positive and admirable but ones that fed my disorder and led to the addiction of an Eating Disorder and everything that came with it, which could have been fatal. I worked on breaking myself away from these behaviours, changing my perspective and way of life to actually embrace living in a different way which led to overcoming my disorder and regaining happiness with a new sense of self.